Wow, we made it to seven months!
[dropcap]We[/dropcap] are seven months into parenthood and I can’t believe how fast the time has flown by.
I’m amazed at everything she does and feel like her cheerleader whenever she tries new food, or when she cut her first tooth. To an outsider I must look bonkers, but she’s like an addiction and I can’t get enough!
In the last few weeks, I have been catching up with some soon-to-be mummies and most of them are exactly the same as I was. Panicking about diaper changing, trying to read every book, constantly comparing one swing chair with another, and deciphering swaddling.
I’m no expert, and I’m glad that the mums I know never gave me advice but just shared their experiences, so below I wanted to share ours.
My husband was wise to suggest placing a clean diaper under the dirty one before changing as there can be accidents mid change!
Mummies get all the cuddles at the beginning and the poor guys feel pretty useless, and maybe even abandoned. Lola hated using her bath, and after spotting a video of a dad showering with his baby, we quickly adopted the same practice. Obviously, be super careful and stand nearby ready with a towel (I love Cuddledry), but this is such a lovely way for them to bond. Also, if you go away on holiday and the hotel has a massive bath, we recommend a family bath time.
There are so many baby products, it is borderline ridiculous! The amount of time I spent researching strollers, car seats and swing chairs feels endless, but there is comfort in knowing you’ve chosen what’s best for you.
- The 4Moms mamaRoo electric swing chair is fancy, but it was useless in the first two months and now she’s getting too big for it.
- Joolz stroller is amazing, but for ease of travel I would go for a YoYo instead.
- We really like the Maxi Cosi car seat and it will last us a long time, but having a car seat that fits your stroller might be easier (we ended up getting another car seat for the Joolz pram).
- Baby slings suck, I have no time getting all that fabric wrapped around me so chose a carrie,r and the BEST one I think is Babybjorn.
- Start using nipple cream a couple of months before the baby arrives as they are going to hurt! I recommend Medela balm.
- Baby monitors are another big purchase. We bought Tommee Tippee for when we’re home as you can place a sensor under her mattress to monitor her movement. For when we’re at work, we use Arlo which allows us to keep an eye on her, save any cute videos and pics from the day, and you can also talk into it.
- We didn’t go crazy on clothes, just the basics as they grow so fast. But we did buy plenty of bibs and few pairs of mittens so she didn’t scratch herself.
- Swaddles act as blankets and a burb cloth. Lola didn’t like swaddling after 8 weeks but at the beginning it makes them feel snug, and also prevents them from waking up due to their uncontrollable limbs swinging all over the place.
You’ll Freak Out
There will be fuck up’s and moments of panic. For me it was on our first family holiday to the Seychelles. I put Lola down for a nap, walked to the other side of the room to grab my book, and as I came back she was lying face down in her bed.
I literally sprinted and flipped her over, but she kept doing it. I was so scared she was going to suffocate but by that age there was no risk of SIDS, and it was actually the stage for when they roll over and sleep on their bellies.
After a few sleepless nights, I was pretty sure she’ll be okay and she now almost always sleeps on her front.
Routine or no Routine
I like having a routine, so I was keen to implement one as soon as possible. It makes it easier to plan days out, but obviously you can’t force it.
While we stuck to it during the day, it didn’t work so well at night so our doctor told us to let her do her thing, skip the dream feed if she doesn’t wake up, and after a few weeks she was sleeping through the night.
I love my sleep so this part was going to suck, and I’m not going to lie the first six weeks were a killer. But then suddenly, something switches and you’re on autopilot doing everything swiftly and efficiently.
It is actually amazing how much you can do on little sleep, but I did get one night off a week to catch up on the zzz’s which made a huge difference to my sanity.
I can probably go on forever, I guess that’s why there are thousands of parenting books and blogs out there. However, one thing they all seem to agree on is that every baby is different, and what works for one might not work for the other.
We had no idea what we were doing, but we’ve got it now, kind of. It’s really an amazing feeling being a parent, everything you thought you’d miss, you don’t, in fact I can’t wait to do all the kid-friendly stuff when she’s older! *Books Harry Potter land.