It’s been a crazy but amazing first month with Lola!
Every parent warns you that the first month of parenthood is going to be tough – they underplay how tough it really is.
You’re getting to know each other, the little one is adjusting to a whole new world of senses and they are completely dependent on you which is a nerve wracking! It took me a while to adjust to breastfeeding and I was so upset when her weight didn’t increase and we had to start using formula from week 1. It’s hard not to feel like a failure but you have to let that go and focus on doing everything you can to make sure they’re healthy.
I also learnt to accept help. It’s important for your partner and yourself to be a team and adjust together but appreciate that your parents or/and a nanny have been through this already and are there to support you. I was very protective, but once I saw that they are more than capable at soothing and feeding her, the weight was lifted.
Here is what else I’ve learn over the last few weeks:
- Dirty diapers aren’t the worst things, once you’ve changed a few it becomes automatic. Warning: place a clean diaper underneath the one you’re changing because babies tend to explode when you least expect it and Lola always pees herself when I use a cold baby wipe
- Babies make so many noises when they sleep, but you’ll get used to it
- Dedicate a lot of time to burping because once they get too gassy or colic – it’s the worst
- Ready-made liquid formula is more expensive but better as consistency is closer to breast milk than the powder ones you make yourself, which can lead to constipation
- Try and have a date night. Putting on makeup and dressing up made me feel so much better!
- Lola loves bouncing, it soothes her so I’m getting one of those exercise balls
- Kip does a very low hum like in yoga which also soothes her
- Download white noise playlist which helps settle them
- Let’s face it, mums do the night shift so if you don’t have a nanny, ask your partner to do one night a week to give you time to rest.
Unlike some mums I didn’t feel instant love when they put her on my chest after delivery. Mix of drugs, shakes from the operation and shock of becoming parents took over and it’s only after a couple of days when I could walk and take a shower I homed in on the fact that she is OUR little girl and I love every single inch of her, even the dirty bottom.
Share the love and let me know how motherhood has been for you!